PSYCHOLOGICAL VIOLENCE.

<<HATE IS THE VIOLENCE THAT DOESN´T LISTEN ANYTHING BUT IT´S VOICE>>

Bernardo Neustard

Psychological abuse often expressed like a long process where the victim cannot appreciate how the aggressor infringes their rights in them, disrespect them, and humiliate them.

Also Psychological violence includes repeated verbal abuse, harassment, detention and deprivation of physical resources, financial and personal. For some people, the constant insults and tyranny that constitute emotional abuse can be more painful than physical attacks, because they undermine effectively the security and confidence of the person in him or herself.

It is reported that people feel that the worst aspect of abuse, is not violence itself, but the "mental torture" and "living in fear and terror."

 Even in those cases exist psychological consequences, and this consequences are not exactly physical.

One of this consequences is:

SUICIDE 

These deaths are a dramatic testimony of  the shortage of available options to people   to escape of  violent relationships.

MENTAL PROBLEMS

In the case of battered people , the emotional and physical exhaustion can lead to suicide.Many are severely depressed or anxious, while others show symptoms of PTSD.

But how to know when a person is violent, well here is the list of the characteristics of  the aggressor:

• He is jealous, he imagines that a wife is unfaithful.
• Try to keep their couple alone.
• He/she controls their couples in all their movements.
• He/she has dual identity, while he/she shows aggressive at home, is ''good'' with others.
• He/she may have or have had trouble with the law.
• He/she has an explosive temper, gets angry easily.
• Does not take responsibility for their actions.
• Had a bad childhood.
• Drink alcohol, smokes.
• Tends to deny the abuse, minimizes and sometimes they even remember.
• Asks apologizes.
• Is selfish and ignores the feelings of others.

      The psychological abuse has two forms depending on the relationship victim-executioner:

Vertical harassment: The stalker is in a position of power  than his victim, it could be in social, economic, labor, hierarchy, and so on.

 Horizontal harassment: The stalker is in the same position of power to his victim.

Inside of psychological violence is important to speak about the:

EMOTIONAL HARASSMENT, and what is this? Well, here is the explanation of this type of violence.

It is a dependency behavior in which the emotionally dependent harassing his victim to the point of making his/her life impossible. The stalker consumes the time of his/her victim or the swallows with continuous and exaggerated expressions of affection and their demands for affection.

If the victim refuses to accept this form of harassment, the executioner complains, cries, despairs, begs, and even threatens his or her victim saying things like "he/she is going to get hurt” or “he/she is going to suicide” and spectacular explosions of lies justified by saying that everything that he/she does is for love.

In all cases, in all types of abuse the consequences could be disastrous and even may lead you to commit suicide.

When we detect the problem, we should the consult experts to take right decision for our actions. This type of conduct requires professional help, if you decide to break up.

It’s very important to find psychological that specialize in couples abuse. Couples will need this kind of help to overcome their problems  of self-esteem and they need to see their psychological framework to leave those negative relationships.